‘Pretty’ Means Entitled

Someone told my mom that I was lashing out because I knew I was ‘pretty’ and so I could get away with more.

People have this perception that if you look the part, then you should get the part, which is completely not true. Just because someone has the ‘looks’, doesn’t mean that they are entitled to have more than another person. The situation I’m describing has a little more to do with culture. Let me explain…

My mother and an aunty (a friend of my mom's) were discussing my behavior and how I was being ‘difficult’. Essentially, I had been really down and sad because I was forced to come back home due to the pandemic, and wasn’t doing so well. I felt like everything I was doing was being watched and controlled and questions. I just wasn’t happy. This aunty, trying to help my mom understand my behavior, said that it was because I knew that I was pretty, and that’s why I thought it was okay for me to lash out.

Now let's dissect this because there are many problems but I just want to understand why this aunty thinks that my looks have anything to do with what I can and can’t do.

Firstly, if you want to understand behavior, you have to look at the whole situation. You are forcing someone, who enjoys living alone, to come back and live with the family again. And not for a week or two, but for an indefinite amount of time. They don’t know when they will get their freedom back, and you think they’ll stay happy? They feel trapped. And in this house that they are forced to live in, they are being told what to do, where to go, and being judged about who their friends are. Would anyone be happy in this situation?

Secondly, that you for saying that I’m pretty, but you have no right to judge my actions based on my looks. It doesn’t and shouldn’t matter, what I do is not because I look a certain way, it’s because of who I am. While I do agree that your looks can affect your confidence, your personality is built off of who you are and what you believe, not only how confident you are.

Lastly, ones looks should never dictate their freedom. A supermodel has the same rights to say, do, and wish as someone who’s not a supermodel. Just because you are ‘pretty’, doesn’t mean that you have more rights as a person than someone who’s not pretty. And there’s another problem… beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so no one has a right to say that someone is pretty over someone else.